Freshmen Mixer 2.0 Letter to Parents

January 22, 2019

Dear St. James Academy Freshmen parents and students:

We are so excited to have our fifth annual Freshmen Mixer 2.0 at St. James Academy on Saturday, February 9th from 7:00 to 9:00 p.m! At St. James Academy, it is our mission to be a guiding force in the Catholic formation of our students.  Every aspect of our students’ lives is a way in which they show their Catholic values, including how to dress and act. The following facts regarding our Freshman Mixer 2.0 outline the event plans and administration’s expectations:

  • The mixer will be in the St. James Commons. The Mixer runs from 7-9 p.m. and pick-up is at 9 p.m.
  • Admission is $5 at the door. Only St. James students may attend.
  • This is a semi-formal dance and not a formal dance. Students are asked to refrain from wearing jeans, shorts, sweats, or yoga pants.  Ladies may choose to wear a semi-formal dress or pants. Gentleman may wear dress pants with a collared shirt, tie, or sport-coat, if they so choose. The theme the Freshman Captains chose is “A Night in the Big Apple” (New York City), so students may dress semi-formally and may interpret the theme however they like within the guidelines in our Student Handbook regarding dressing with Christian modesty for dances.  Students dressed inappropriately may be asked to change or leave the Mixer.
  • Students are encouraged to come in groups! We ask that students not ask each other as dates. We want this to have all the excitement and fun of a high-school dance without any of the pressures that may accompany those events!
  • There is no need to go out to dinner before the dance. This is meant to be a low-cost, high-fun, community-building event for the St. James Academy class of 2022!
  • We reserve the right to test for alcohol/drugs.
  • We reserve the right to search purses/bags.

Selecting clothes for a special event can be exciting, but current styles are often inappropriately revealing. We ask your help in ensuring that your children are dressed modestly.  Those wearing attire judged to be too revealing or provocative would be asked to change or leave the mixer. Please see the St. James Academy Student Handbook for more specifics at the bottom of page 49.

Unfortunately, young people do not always make the best choices with respect to Christian modesty.  It is our joint role, as educators and parents, to teach and guide them to make appropriate decisions regarding behavior and attire.  Also, any guest dancing provocatively will be told to stop and will be disciplined and required to leave the dance if they persist.

Teenage alcohol and drug use is the number one problem facing families and is often responsible for ruining festive events like this.    

What parents can do:

    • Set reasonable limits.  Let your child know you care enough to want him/her to be safe.
    • Make sure they understand that teenage drinking and drug use is against the law and school rules regardless of whether or not they are driving.  Possible natural consequences may include loss of life, severe injury, legal problems, or removal from school.


  • Check on the specific activities your children will be involved in before and after the mixer.  You need to know where they are going, when they will be home, and whom they will be with. Trust, but verify!


  • Do not allow students to rent motel or hotel rooms for parties.
  • Do not allow your home to be a place for a party that will provide alcohol for students.  It is against the law.

We want all events at St. James to be positive and in line with our mission.  We ask your help in supporting these guidelines so that a common message is given from the entire St. James community.  We look forward to St. James Academy events that are filled with the joys of the Christian life.

Yours in Christ,

St. James Academy Administration